Dating someone emotionally unavailable
We're extremely career-driven, goal-oriented and independent. Since we tend to gear towards this path in life — to make our mark and leave the world with a legacy –, we also are inevitably emotionally unavailable.We're more interested in our latest project than we are in cuddling.This is probably one of the most common questions that I am asked by women and it seems that no matter what some of you know about yourselves and him, you’re still curious. Most women who took the time to search for information that led them to this site were looking for answers and more importantly, a solution.Admittedly though, I suspect that the ideal solution that many want to hear is one that involves: You changing and him having a thunderbolt moment where he realises it’s love.And then, of course, there's the dreaded cliché of being "emotionally unavailable" and unable to commit.
"It's sort of a protection or defense from feeling hurt," says Megan Fleming, Ph. Emotionally unavailable folks are fiercely independent: They may not feel like they need anyone.
We want more out of life than what has been previously allotted. We control our destinies, and this makes us slightly fearsome, but also thoroughly impressive.
The Millennial woman shouldn't be resented, gentlemen, but instead, needs to be embraced and accepted. We want to achieve substantial goals, not live vicariously through yours.
If he changes, he’ll have had to have had something really major happen that switches him from disconnected to connected. He’ll want something that reflects his connected, positive life, and that’s unlikely to be you.
Everyone has the capacity for change, but many people don’t because they either don’t believe that they have to change (stubborn), are unaware that they have to change (sometimes deluded), or they have no actual need to change.
At some point, we've all been hit with a "Get-Out-of-a-Date-Free" card.