, I want to thank you for taking time out of your busy schedule to present at our National JUMP Leadership Conference this week.Your presence truly impacted the students and provided them with new insights into themselves, their Jewish identity, and how they might make an impact on the Jewish world as budding leaders.I craved intimacy, and I knew I would find it in marriage.So, I punched “marriage” into Google Maps, jumped on the highway, and ignored the speed limits.Speaking to a group of 150 teenagers is challenging in any circumstance.But the combination of their age, the intensity of the program, and the fact that you were the last speaker of the conference, stacked the cards against you.What was driving you most in those brief moments before you let your lips touch?
In my best moments, I was pursuing clarity intimacy, but in a lot of other moments, if I’m honest, I just wanted intimacy at whatever cost. God made many of us to want these things, and therefore wants us to want these things — with the right heart, in the right measure, and at the right time.
“The pursuit of marriage” was a warm and justifying pullover to wear over my conscience when things started to go too far physically and emotionally. That simple equation would have saved me and the girls I dated all kinds of grief, heartache, and regret. Think about your last first kiss in a relationship (if you’ve already kissed someone). You knew you were risking something, that this wasn’t the safest way to give yourself to someone.
We want to share life with someone of the opposite sex who will be involved and invested in what we’re doing and what we care about.
He has been certified in Marriage Education Professional Training from the University of Bridgeport.
He and Brenda are trained in Preventive and Relationship Enhancement Program (PREP).
Every first kiss until I kissed my wife for the first time, seconds after asking her to be my wife.