Advice for dating men
Mobile dating apps allow you to see who’s online and in the vicinity, improving your chances of landing a really good catch.
It also means every night is “date night.” So the way it used to work—with time to plan what you’d wear, where you’d take her, and so on—has changed. Keep a change of clothes at work, along with some deodorizing wipes and mouthwash, because who knows what’s in store.
There are red flags that are annoying, and red flags that are Molotov cocktails waiting to burn your life down. A beautiful and kind woman with an annoying laugh may be tough on a long car ride, but at least she thinks you’re funny. If you’re a sports junkie who has season tickets to the Celtics, do you want a woman who hates basketball and wants you home every night? Don't make the classic mistake of thinking, "She's beautiful. Dating is one of those things that we’re supposed to be good at with no practice and no detailed feedback. The easiest way to improve your dating skills is to take a female friend to lunch and talk her through your last date -- your clothes, your venue choice, your conversation, your end of date approach.
Issues involving honesty, money, substances, entitlement, and kindness should have you running for the door. Too many times men end up with women who don’t like the life they cherish. If she lets you lean in or even leans into you, things are going quite well. I know that it can take women two or three dates to feel chemistry. You should really want to kiss her, and if you don’t, it’s not a crime. You know that thing about red flags that can burn your life down. She will have opinions on all these things, and next time you’ll be better for it.
"Please don't assume we're going to the nicest restaurant in the city because I won't take you there.
I'll take you to a dive bar with amazing burgers to see how you react.
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Play by these new rules and you’ll score again and again. NEW: Women checking men out.● Think your zipper’s undone? Using eye-tracking technology, scientists from the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction found that women are actually more likely to have wandering eyes than men.
NEW: Mobile dating.● Online dating made it easy to cast a wide dating net.
Trouble is, you’d end up hooking a lot of fish you had no appetite for.
Carlos is the author of The Dating Black Book, the definitive men’s guide to dating and attraction, Secrets of the Alpha Man DVD and CD programs, Alpha Conversation & Persuasion, as well as articles and books on dating and attraction.
He also produces a weekly podcast and a regular blog.
Carlos Xuma brings to the table a variety of life experiences, including a background in relationship skills, life-coaching, motivational psychology, sales, management, Martial Arts, teaching and instruction, technology and engineering, Eastern philosophy, the psychology of achievement, and music. Carlos' mission is to bring men and women together through awareness of both our traditional and contemporary gender roles.